30 By 30

30 Things Every Woman Should Have & Know By The Time She’s 30

What would you add to the list?

1. One old boyfriend you can imag­ine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.

2. A decent piece of fur­ni­ture not pre­vi­ously owned by any­one else in your family.

3. Some­thing per­fect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.

4. A purse, a suit­case, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.

5. A youth you’re con­tent to move beyond.

6. A past juicy enough that you’re look­ing for­ward to retelling it in your old age.

7. The real­iza­tion that you are actu­ally going to have an old age — and some money set aside to help fund it.

8. An email address, a voice mail­box, and a bank account — all of which nobody has access to but you.

9. A résumé that is not even the slight­est bit padded.

10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.

11. A set of screw­drivers, a cord­less drill, and a black lace bra.

12. Some­thing ridicu­lously expen­sive that you bought for your­self, just because you deserve it.

13. The belief that you deserve it.

14. A skin-care reg­i­men, an exer­cise rou­tine, and a plan for deal­ing with those few other facets of life that don’t get bet­ter after 30.

15. A solid start on a sat­is­fy­ing career, a sat­is­fy­ing rela­tion­ship, and all those other facets of life that do get better.


By 30, you should know …

1. How to fall in love with­out los­ing yourself.

2. How you feel about hav­ing kids.

3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and con­front a friend with­out ruin­ing the friendship.

4. When to try harder and when to walk away.

5. How to kiss in a way that com­mu­ni­cates per­fectly what you would and wouldn’t like to hap­pen next.

6. The names of the sec­re­tary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tai­lor in town.

7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.

8. Where to go — be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat — when your soul needs soothing.

9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents.

10. That your child­hood may not have been per­fect, but it’s over.

11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.

12. That nobody gets away with smok­ing, drink­ing, doing drugs, or not floss­ing for very long.

13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally.

14. Not to apol­o­gize for some­thing that isn’t your fault.

15. Why they say life begins at 30


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