Low self-esteem, a complete lack of faith in your own worth and abilities, is a prevalent issue these days. It causes people to turn inward, away from others, dwelling in their own private Hells. People with LSE may not pursue the things they want because they feel they aren’t worthy to have them. They may resist relationships because they fear they’ll ruin them.
Though low self-esteem can be a paralyzing condition, there are ways to combat it. Here are a few suggestions that may help raise the self-esteem of you or someone you love:
- Get out! – Sitting around all alone won’t help a bit. But getting out and being with people surely will. Get involved with projects at school or church. This will give you a chance to show your worth to others and make friends you can lean on when things get bad.
- Find something you’re good at. – Accomplishments are the best way to raise self-esteem and build confidence. If you’re good at serving others, volunteer at a nursing home. If you’re good at telling a story, write something and share it with your friends. You may be surprised how much being complimented on your skills helps your confidence.
- Keep good company. – Surround yourself with people who love and support you. Not only will their love help you to feel like you have worth, but you’ll also have someone to talk to when you need to talk.
- Accept compliments. – You may not buy it when someone says something nice to you, but remember, others don’t see you the way you see yourself.
- Don’t take crap from anybody. – Just because someone tells you something, doesn’t necessarily make it true. Be sure to take any criticism others give you with a grain of salt. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t believe it.
- Take an inventory. – Make a list of your top 10 best qualities and talk about them. Also, make a list of your top 10 weaknesses and pick one of them to try to improve.
- Don’t beat yourself up. – If you’re in a hole, it does no good to shovel dirt on top of yourself. Do something nice for yourself if you’re feeling down.
- Get help. – If all else fails, get professional assistance.
The seeds of low self-esteem are often sown during childhood, when kids are still trying to figure out how they fit in the world. It solidifies around 8 – 10 years of age and, if not treated, it can have affects lasting long into adulthood. Some warning signs include:
- Faulty self image
- Poor self confidence
- Neediness (Need of external validation to achieve a feeling of worth)
- Anxiety or depression
- Poor Communication
If you or anyone you care about is exhibiting these symptoms, get help right away. You’ll be very glad you did.