Stomping Low-Self Esteem

Low self-esteem, a com­plete lack of faith in your own worth and abil­i­ties, is a preva­lent issue these days. It causes peo­ple to turn inward, away from oth­ers, dwelling in their own pri­vate Hells. Peo­ple with LSE may not pur­sue the things they want because they feel they aren’t wor­thy to have them. They may resist rela­tion­ships because they fear they’ll ruin them.

Though low self-esteem can be a par­a­lyz­ing con­di­tion, there are ways to com­bat it. Here are a few sug­ges­tions that may help raise the self-esteem of you or some­one you love:

  • Get out! – Sit­ting around all alone won’t help a bit. But get­ting out and being with peo­ple surely will. Get involved with projects at school or church. This will give you a chance to show your worth to oth­ers and make friends you can lean on when things get bad.
  • Find some­thing you’re good at. – Accom­plish­ments are the best way to raise self-esteem and build con­fi­dence. If you’re good at serv­ing oth­ers, vol­un­teer at a nurs­ing home. If you’re good at telling a story, write some­thing and share it with your friends. You may be sur­prised how much being com­pli­mented on your skills helps your confidence.
  • Keep good com­pany. – Sur­round your­self with peo­ple who love and sup­port you. Not only will their love help you to feel like you have worth, but you’ll also have some­one to talk to when you need to talk.
  • Accept com­pli­ments. – You may not buy it when some­one says some­thing nice to you, but remem­ber, oth­ers don’t see you the way you see yourself.
  • Don’t take crap from any­body. – Just because some­one tells you some­thing, doesn’t nec­es­sar­ily make it true. Be sure to take any crit­i­cism oth­ers give you with a grain of salt. If some­thing doesn’t feel right, don’t believe it.
  • Take an inven­tory. – Make a list of your top 10 best qual­i­ties and talk about them. Also, make a list of your top 10 weak­nesses and pick one of them to try to improve.
  • Don’t beat your­self up. – If you’re in a hole, it does no good to shovel dirt on top of your­self. Do some­thing nice for your­self if you’re feel­ing down.
  • Get help. – If all else fails, get pro­fes­sional assistance.

The seeds of low self-esteem are often sown dur­ing child­hood, when kids are still try­ing to fig­ure out how they fit in the world. It solid­i­fies around 8 – 10 years of age and, if not treated, it can have affects last­ing long into adult­hood. Some warn­ing signs include:

  • Faulty self image
  • Poor self confidence
  • Need­i­ness (Need of exter­nal val­i­da­tion to achieve a feel­ing of worth)
  • Anx­i­ety or depression
  • Per­fec­tion­ism
  • Poor Com­mu­ni­ca­tion
  • If you or any­one you care about is exhibit­ing these symp­toms, get help right away. You’ll be very glad you did.


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